An Introvert Abroad

Studying abroad has been full of unforgettable experiences, new connections, and growth opportunities. I’ve found myself eager to soak up every unique moment possible, and with all the resources for adventure provided by IES Abroad, these chances were constant. However, I noticed something along the way: constant motion is tiring. Especially as an introvert, there were times when I found myself drained. Too much socializing, too much nomadic behavior, trying to see everything possible during this precious and limited time. Not enough time spent recuperating from these activities. When I found myself exhausted, I allowed moments for myself. Then, the obvious next step is to feel guilty for these necessary moments. You can sleep in the U.S.A. Then, you become aware of how the mental spiral takes away from the time you could spend exploring the city. Not ideal. Over time, I’ve given myself some grace and found a good balance between action and time for reflection. 

How do you make time alone fulfilling? This was an essential question for me this semester. The clear conclusion is to treat that time as time spent with yourself rather than alone. When you’re in the park with yourself, you follow the adventure of an unfamiliar trail or rest for a moment, write in your journal, or read a book. Coffee dates with myself have been a highlight of Rome, especially in spots with a beautiful view. These places are easy to find in Rome, even if the view is of the people walking by. 

I also had a fantastic solo travel experience to Berlin in November. Exploring a new place with only myself to please was so freeing. I improvised through the city, seeing the iconic sights, lazing through museums, and having the best burger since NYC. I have a taste for solo travel now and will schedule more adventures like this one. 

Regardless of how socially adverse you might be at times, it’s essential to make friends during your study abroad experience. This was simple for me and my kind, open, eager peers. I’ve made a few wonderful friends during the program, including some previously unknown peeps from my home institution! You will only get out of these new relationships what you put into them, so make an effort towards getting to know these people. It sounds simple, but it’s something I need to remind myself of when I’m too comfortable and content in my room to go out with friends. At times, I’ll compromise with myself, going to the function just for a bit while still getting to bed within a reasonable time. Every time, I’m grateful that I took the opportunity to make memories with people who, though I may never see them again, are a massive part of this life-changing experience. 

An easy and delightful way to spend time with new friends is to go out for aperitivo after class; my Italian class spent some chill, wholesome afternoons having a post-class bite. After our final class the other day, we did just that at BiblioBar near the IES Abroad center. The bookish vibes and casual atmosphere made it one of my favorite spots throughout the semester, and it was a bittersweet place to have this final aperitivo with new friends. Undoubtedly, these will be special memories that are always worth it.

Seeing so many of my peers going out and traveling every weekend always makes me feel unsure of myself. Look how many more places they’ve seen, how they’re enriching their experiences. However, I know myself, and I know that would burn me out and make everything even more strenuous. One of the greatest parts of studying abroad is spending time with yourself in a new context and getting to know yourself better. I hope this reflection is helpful to my fellow introverts; know yourself, your needs, and your goals.

Ciao for now!

Ellie